No Two Minds Think Exactly Alike.
Have you ever stopped to think of the most unique events of your life, or even the ones which seem mundane and far from extraordinary? These events shaped the way you think, your neural responses, your patterns. Every one of them can trigger a preconceived action. You are at this point in time, all of your prior patterns. Those are broken when new information enters, and a new neural link is made.
Many people will go a lifetime and make a minimal amount of re-linkings, some people will constantly create new information and links. Memories are accessed all the time in our minds, sometimes changing and adding new information to them, but it doesn't change large portions of our brain, neural, structure. The neurons can create new links at any time.
The problem we face in society is we are working with many dimensions of the mind. Not just the patterns, but the outcome of the patterns, and biology of the brain. When we try and convince people they have done something wrong, they sometimes don't see or accept why it was wrong.
A mind pre conditioned into a pattern can be changed, but through work with the existing ones, replacing, revisiting and changing memories, which can't be trusted. Memories are flawed, but they create a person who is individual because of the pattern that they created.
People who don't obey social laws and constructs, or mores, have often been conditioned mentally to not obey them, to hold them as suspect, or believe themselves above the law. In some cases the person has emotional or mental, even physical trauma behind the creation of these patterns.
Once a person has broken some of the more extreme social laws, such as murder, they can't be trusted to follow them again. It is hard to convince a person who has taken a life, in many instances, that they did something very wrong. Over time they may or may not come to accept that. It varies, mostly by the situation. Though prison has the ability to reinforce negative patterns, and the breaking of social laws.
Each of us though, is an amalgum, of memories, and patterns, strewn throught the brain stored in the neurons, each of us have lived different lives, seen things from personal perspectives. Even those who go through many of the same things, still will have variables, experiences which are different from every perspective, and build upon prior experiences. Even one variable is enough to alter a pattern, which, often times there are many dynamics. Things the person saw, thinks they saw, can alter their perception.
There are seven billion versions of this world, how it functions, the patterns and establisment of boundaries. Seven billion ways of seeing the world, but you can only see it from yours. While you can empathize with others on their experiences, and patterns, you realize that you can't take on another persons perspective, and even your perspective can just be what you have created in your mind.
Our reality is as real as we make it, we define ourselves over and over. Our minds seek our comforting patterns, and we remain individuals. Though we can be made to believe things which alter our outlook on life, we have a personality based on the patterns which first formed us. Things which we don't think about. Why do we laugh at certain jokes, become offended, cry, feel sad, happy, love a certain way?
We are programmed by birth to mock the behaviors of those teaching us, yet we will inevitably become unique. Sometimes having to go back and reprogram the core programs and patterns set by the primary care takers in our lives. The mind being a highly complex diverse organization of neural connections. From those primary care takers and our first years we begin to develop a sense of self and self awareness. After that period of time we continue making secondary connections based upon our primary development. Interactions we have with other humans alter and define ultimately who we think we are. Based upon that is our social, romantic, and emotional behaviors.
Often times we need help externally based to sort through the memories, and help to alter them. People can be as much a victim of their neural patterns as they are a product of them. This is why society is such a hard and dynamic structure, yet one worth the effort and time. In all of our realities, there is no one reality which is more real than the others. Yet today when you look out from your eyes, all you will see is your own reality reflecting back at you, but you at least know that your reality only exists inside of your mind.